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Origin : Non-verbal communication

🧍 Non-verbal communication

Kinesics & proxemics

P. Ekman (micro-expressions), A. Mehrabian, E. T. Hall ("The Hidden Dimension", 1966), J. Navarro ("What Every Body Is Saying", 2008).

Full detail in the “Origin & history” section below.

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Occupying the Space

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Alexandre Baumberger

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Alexandre Baumberger

Negotiation lecturer at KEDGE Business School

A rare threefold background serving negotiation: teaching, commercial justice and audit, backed by experience as a company director in Bordeaux.

  • Teaching, KEDGE Business School Negotiation lecturer since 2014 (12 years).
  • Commercial justice, Commercial Court Judge from 2018 to 2026: litigation, then insolvency proceedings.
  • Audit & advisory, over 20 years Tax, employment and financial audit in major firms, for large groups.
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In brief

Occupying space refers to the way you physically inhabit a place and a distance: your seat at the table, the breadth of your gestures, the management of interpersonal distance (proxemics). It signals and modulates status and ease. A word of caution, however: the fashion for “power poses” (expansive postures said to boost confidence) rests on a study that has not been replicated; the internal effect is doubtful, even if the effect on how others perceive you is better established.

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At a glance

Its family profile at a glance

Effectiveness Psychologicalimpact Discretion Preparation Relationalrisk Ethics
7.3 / 10 Tactical potential

Vigilance: moderate (4.0/10) · Preparation required: 5/10

Grounding in the source school Documented school

Indicative profile: it situates the “Non-verbal communication” family as the Non-verbal communication school practises it, not this technique taken in isolation. Techniques from the same family and school therefore share the same profile. NEGOCOACH editorial rating out of 10, non-experimental · the higher the “relational risk” value, the more costly the technique is to the relationship.

NEGOCOACH assessment

How to read this rating

Tactical potential 7.3/10 (effectiveness, impact, discretion) and vigilance moderate (relational and ethical risk): two distinct readings, deliberately never merged into a single score that would reward risk. NEGOCOACH editorial rating calibrated from the “Non-verbal communication” family and the “Non-verbal communication” school. Each criterion is rated out of 10; click to understand what it measures.

  • Effectiveness 7/10 · High

    How far the technique can carry the negotiation in the intended direction when it is well executed.

  • Psychological impact 7/10 · High

    Strength of the effect produced on the counterpart's perceptions, emotions and decisions.

  • Discretion 8/10 · Very high

    How hard it is for the other party to notice the technique is being used. A high value = very discreet.

  • Preparation 5/10 · Moderate

    The information, analysis and rehearsal required upfront to use it effectively.

  • Relational risk 3/10 · Low

    Potential cost to the relationship and to trust if the technique is spotted, refused or fails. A high value = riskier.

  • Ethics 6/10 · High

    Moral acceptability: fairness, transparency and respect for the counterpart's autonomy. A high value = more defensible.

Level of evidence

Documented school

The school this technique stems from is documented by recognised work and established practice, without experimental consensus. This indicator qualifies the school, not this technique taken in isolation.

Indicative NEGOCOACH editorial rating, for teaching purposes. For “Relational risk”, a high value signals a cost to the relationship, not a quality.

Overview: Occupying Space

Origin & history

The central notion is proxemics, coined by the anthropologist Edward T. Hall in The Hidden Dimension (1966)i, who distinguished the intimate, personal, social and public distances. The recent popularisation of “power poses” comes from a 2010 study whose hormonal and risk-taking effects have not been replicatedi, so treat this strand's promises with caution.

Definition and principle

Occupying space means managing three registers: proxemics (the distance you take or impose), postural amplitude (expanding or contracting) and positioning within the place. The best-established effect is relational: an expansive posture is perceived by others as dominant or self-assured, a contracted one as submissive. By contrast, the idea that adopting a power pose would actually make you feel more confident internally remains scientifically shaky; space speaks above all to others.

Concrete examples of application

Application by context

The same technique, across every negotiation settings

Context 1 / 8

Sales negotiation

A salesperson arrives at a meeting, settles in calmly, and lays their documents out broadly across the table rather than staying hunched at the edge. This calm occupation of the working surface projects assurance and establishes a relationship of equals with the buyer.

How to apply it

Occupy your share of the working surface calmly and with measured amplitude; spatial ease reads as legitimacy.

Strengths

Establishes a status of equal; the assurance perceived lends credibility to the offer.

Weaknesses

Excessive occupation (encroaching on the other's space, over-wide gestures) reads as arrogance and puts the buyer on the defensive.

Context 2 / 8

Procurement negotiation

On the buyer's side, a manager receives the seller in their own office and chooses the seating arrangement: they seat the seller slightly lower or at a distance, keeping control of the space. Without a word, they signal who is leading the meeting.

How to apply it

Control the seating and distance when you are the host; the spatial arrangement frames the status relationship from the outset.

Strengths

Establishes the upper hand without verbal aggression; puts the seller in the position of a petitioner.

Weaknesses

Framing that is too dominant creates a defensive relationship and harms the quality of future collaboration.

Context 3 / 8

Labour negotiation

In a meeting, someone usually self-effacing chooses to sit at a central point of the table, sits up straight and rests their forearms on the table. Their heightened spatial presence makes them more readily heard, regardless of how loudly they speak.

How to apply it

Choose a central seat and a settled, open posture; spatial presence influences the attention you are granted.

Strengths

Increases perceived weight without raising the voice; useful for reserved profiles.

Weaknesses

The effect is perceived by others, not necessarily felt within; it is no substitute for the substance of what you say.

Context 4 / 8

Crisis management

A responder facing an agitated person is careful NOT to invade their personal space: they keep a sufficient distance, a non-threatening posture, hands visible. Respecting the other's proxemic bubble is a precondition of de-escalation.

How to apply it

Scrupulously respect personal distance and avoid any encroaching posture; in a crisis, moving in too close is perceived as an assault.

Strengths

Reduces the sense of threat; a material condition of calming things down.

Weaknesses

The right distance varies from person to person and culture to culture; if misjudged, it misses its mark and worsens the tension.

Context 5 / 8

Political negotiation

During a stand-up debate, a candidate occupies their lectern with a stable, expansive posture, without encroaching on the opponent's space. The image of controlled presence is captured by the cameras and weighs on public perception.

How to apply it

Project a stable, expansive occupation of your allotted space, without invading the other's; the image of presence counts as much as the words.

Strengths

Builds an image of solidity and leadership; occupying space is a powerful televisual language.

Weaknesses

Invading the opponent's space (the notorious “loitering” in a debate) backfires as an image of aggression; the internal “power pose” effect is unproven.

Context 6 / 8

Real-estate negotiation

An agent deliberately lets the buyers occupy the space of the property: they hold back, let the buyers move around, open the cupboards, picture themselves living there. By not occupying the space themselves, they encourage the visitors to take mental ownership of the place.

How to apply it

During a viewing, free up the space for the buyers; physical appropriation feeds the desire to buy.

Strengths

Encourages projection and an anticipated sense of ownership; decisive in an emotional purchase.

Weaknesses

Withdrawing entirely can leave visitors without a bearing; you must stay available without getting in the way.

Context 7 / 8

Cross-cultural negotiation

A Northern European negotiator, used to a large personal distance, works with partners from Latin America or the Middle East, where conversational distance is shorter. Stepping back on reflex would be perceived as coldness; they adjust their proxemic bubble.

How to apply it

Set your interpersonal distance to the cultural norm: Hall's “right” distance varies widely (contact vs non-contact cultures).

Strengths

Avoids the double misunderstanding (seeming cold or, conversely, intrusive); signals adaptation to local codes.

Weaknesses

The right distance differs radically from one culture to another; a badly calibrated bubble creates instant discomfort. Nothing is universal.

Context 8 / 8

Family negotiation

During a tense discussion, a parent chooses to sit beside their teenager rather than opposite them, reducing the head-on confrontation. Changing the spatial arrangement lowers the confrontational stance and makes it easier to talk.

How to apply it

Favour a side-by-side arrangement over a face-to-face one for sensitive subjects; the spatial angle changes the relational register.

Strengths

Lessens the confrontational charge; opens a calmer space for dialogue.

Weaknesses

Some people need a face-to-face setting to feel genuinely acknowledged; adapt to the individual.

Counter-techniques

Spot and neutralise this technique

Negotiation is also played on defence. Here is how to recognise this technique when it is used against you, and turn it around.

Detect

The signals that give it away

  • A dominance posture
  • Heavy management of gaze and silences
  • Spatial staging (seat, height, distance)

Neutralise

The counters that defuse it

  • Stay in control of your own posture
  • Don't over-read every gesture
  • Bring the exchange back to words and writing

Turn around

Turn it into an advantage

Align your non-verbal with your message to reinforce your credibility.

The trap to avoid

Letting the staging intimidate you.

In brief

  • Difficulty: Intermediate
  • Estimated effectiveness: Moderate to high (perceived effect, not internal)
  • Time to implement: Immediate
  • Fields of application: Negotiation, Management, Politics, Sales, Mediation
  • Synonyms: Proxemics, Distance management, Spatial presence, Territoriality
  • Tags: space, proxemics, Hall, power pose, distance

Strengths and weaknesses

Occupying space modulates perceived status and ease: an expansive posture read as assurance, distance management that frames the relationship. It is a silent and immediate language, highly effective on camera. Its major limitation: the effect is mainly on how others perceive you; the promise of an internal effect from “power poses” has not been replicated and must be handled with scepticism.

When to use this technique

Worth attending to in order to establish legitimacy (an expansive, stable posture), frame a status relationship (seating, distance) or, conversely, free up the space to encourage appropriation (a property viewing). Handle with restraint in de-escalation (respecting the bubble) and systematically recalibrate in a cross-cultural context.

How to spot and counter this technique

Spot it: the other person spreads out, encroaches on your space, adopts expansive postures or imposes an inferior seat on you. Neutralise it: restore spatial symmetry (reclaim your distance, your place, your stable posture) without escalating into dominance. Turn it around: calmly and fully occupy your own space; a settled presence neutralises spatial intimidation better than a counter-attack.

Limits and ethics

Ethically, occupying your own space is legitimate; invading the other's to intimidate them or exploit their proxemic discomfort amounts to aggression. Warning against over-interpretation: a contracted posture is not proof of submission or lying (cold, tiredness, shyness), and gestural amplitude is not proof of genuine confidence. An isolated spatial cue proves nothing; be especially wary of the promises of “power poses”.

Variants and related techniques

Encompasses proxemics and combines with Body Positioning (orientation) and Gaze Management. Complements Varying the Pace in building presence. It stands in opposition to postures of withdrawal and contraction, and is distinct from the myths of the “power pose” as an internal booster.

Going further

  • Edward T. Hall, The Hidden Dimension, 1966 (the foundation of proxemics).
  • Amy Cuddy, Presence, 2015 (the power-pose thesis, to be read alongside the replication critiques).
  • Joseph Simmons & Uri Simonsohn, “Power Posing: Reassessing the Evidence”, Psychological Science, 2017 (failed replication).

Aims of the technique

  • Establish a favourable balance of power before the first word is even spoken, through the choice of place, seat and room layout
  • Signal status and assurance through the breadth of territory occupied: central position, open posture, documents and objects spread out
  • Modulate the physical distance with your counterpart to create, depending on the effect sought, a cooperative closeness or a hierarchical distance
  • Control the material framework of the discussion (confrontational face-to-face vs cooperative side-by-side, table plan, precedence) to steer the relational dynamic
  • In defence: spot the other party's spatial staging and neutralise it by renegotiating the ground (neutral venue, balanced layout)

Famous cases

Diplomatic · The battle over the Paris peace-talks table (1968-1969): Before even addressing the substance of the Vietnam War, the delegations spent roughly ten weeks negotiating... the shape of the table. Saigon refused any arrangement that would give the National Liberation Front (Viet Cong) the visual status of an equal party; Hanoi demanded the opposite. The negotiating space had become the stake itself: each configuration (square, rectangular, four-sided) embodied a form of political recognition. The final compromise - a large round table flanked by two rectangular tables for the secretariats, with no delegation markings - allowed each camp to read the arrangement in its own way (“two sides” for some, “four parties” for others). A textbook case: the occupation and organisation of space are not mere scenery but a status message that the parties negotiate fiercely.

Political · The very long Kremlin table (February 2022): During Emmanuel Macron's visit to Moscow to try to defuse the Ukrainian crisis, Vladimir Putin received him at the two ends of a table roughly six metres long. Official reason: health protocol, after Macron declined to take a Russian PCR test. But the image, which went viral, was analysed around the world as a spatial signal: the physical distance staged coldness, the balance of power and the inaccessibility of the master of the house - all the more so as other visitors deemed more aligned were received at close range. Whatever the initial intention, the episode illustrates the symbolic power of managing distances: the layout of the room spoke louder than the five hours of talks.

Sales · Arriving first in the room (representative scenario): A scenario representative of a common practice: a sales director must negotiate a difficult contract renewal on the client's premises. She arrives twenty minutes early, chooses the seat at the head of the table facing the door (the position of control), spreads her file, laptop and samples across a wide portion of the table, and lays out her printed proposal in front of her counterparts' places. When the procurement team walks in, the territory has already been structured by her: she opens the meeting standing near the screen, in the position of chair. Without another word, she has reversed the asymmetry of “the opponent's ground”. The technique remains effective as long as it stays discreet: an ostentatiously domineering spread would have produced the opposite effect.

Common mistakes

  • Invading the counterpart's intimate space (under 45-50 cm, imposed contact): the territorial pressure triggers reactance and hostility rather than ascendancy
  • Ignoring the cultural codes of proxemics: the comfortable distance varies widely across cultures, and what is cordial here is intrusive elsewhere
  • Lapsing into theatrics (ostentatious spreading out, a raised seat, staged lateness): the manoeuvre becomes legible and discredits its author
  • Enduring the opponent's ground for want of having negotiated the venue, timing and room layout in advance - space is prepared before the meeting, not during it
  • Believing that spatial dominance replaces substantive preparation: space amplifies a position, it creates neither arguments nor alternatives (BATNA)

Scientific foundations

  • Edward T. Hall (1966) The Hidden Dimension Doubleday, New York (French trans. “La Dimension cachée”, Seuil, 1971)
  • Robert Sommer (1969) Personal Space: The Behavioral Basis of Design Prentice-Hall, Englewood Cliffs

Quick exercise

Test yourself before answering

Answer in your head, then reveal the solution. Memory is built through active recall.

1 Quels signaux doivent vous alerter ?
  • A dominance posture
  • Heavy management of gaze and silences
  • Spatial staging (seat, height, distance)
2 Quelles parades appliquer ?
  • Stay in control of your own posture
  • Don't over-read every gesture
  • Bring the exchange back to words and writing

Frequently asked questions

The questions we get most

What is the "Occupying the Space" technique?

Occupying space refers to the way you physically inhabit a place and a distance: your seat at the table, the breadth of your gestures, the management of interpersonal distance (proxemics). It signals and modulates status and ease. A word of caution, however: the fashion for “power poses” (expansive postures said to boost confidence) rests on a study that has not been replicated; the internal effect is doubtful, even if the effect on how others perceive you is better established.

Is the "Occupying the Space" technique ethical?

It sits on the line: effective, but it can tip into manipulation if it exploits an information asymmetry. Use it with measure and without deliberate deceit.

How do you defend against "Occupying the Space"?

Letting the staging intimidate you. The right reflex: stay in control of your own posture.

What is the "Occupying the Space" technique based on?

NEGOCOACH does not assess the experimental validation of this technique in isolation. What we document is the grounding of its source school (Non-verbal communication): documented school. Full detail is in the "At a glance" section of this page.

Practise with AI

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Prepare

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Simulate

Rehearse against an AI counterpart

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Debrief

Analyse a past negotiation

Here is how my negotiation went: [paste the exchanges]. Analyse whether the "Occupying the Space" technique was used well, what worked, the mistakes made, and spell out precisely what I could have done better.

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References

Bibliography & credible sources

Founding works of the 🧍 Non-verbal communication school this technique belongs to.

  • Cover: You Can Negotiate Anything

    You Can Negotiate Anything

    Book

    H. Cohen · 1980

    The best-seller that democratised negotiation: everything is negotiable, provided you understand power, time and information. Accessible in tone and full of everyday examples.

  • Cover: Everything is Negotiable

    Everything is Negotiable

    Book

    G. Kennedy · 1982

    A practical guide to negotiating in daily life as in business, centred on conditional exchange and firmness on your interests. Kennedy hunts down the negotiator's "soft" reflexes.

P. Ekman (micro-expressions), A. Mehrabian, E. T. Hall ("The Hidden Dimension", 1966), J. Navarro ("What Every Body Is Saying", 2008).

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Where this technique sits

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Combines with

same family
277 Synchronization 278 Body Mirroring 279 Calibration 281 Pace Variation 283 Eye-Contact Management 284 Body Positioning

Levers engaged

biases & emotions

Fields of application

Sales negotiation Procurement negotiation Labour negotiation Crisis management Political negotiation Real-estate negotiation Cross-cultural negotiation Family negotiation

Countered by

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Key takeaways

  • En une phrase

    Occupying space refers to the way you physically inhabit a place and a distance: your seat at the table, the breadth of your gestures, the management of interpersonal distance (proxemics). It signals and modulates status and ease. A word of caution, however: the fashion for “power poses” (expansive postures said to boost confidence) rests on a study that has not been replicated; the internal effect is doubtful, even if the effect on how others perceive you is better established.

  • The right reflex

    Align your non-verbal with your message to reinforce your credibility.

  • Never do this

    Letting the staging intimidate you.

7.3/10 tactical potential Moderate vigilance Documented school

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